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Preserving memories

2009-05-06T21:04:00.000-07:00

I will take this chance to ask you guys, how do you keep some of your memories from fading. Me, I always bring my digicam with me. Even the birth of my daughter, it was taken through my Sony videocam. One of these days, I'll upload some pics.

Life is too short... and as the saying goes, we cannot step to the same water twice. It is important that you know how to preserve memories because in the end... memories are the only thing left for us... :)

Cherish all your memories, remember the good...and learn from the bad.

Can you forgive?

2009-01-20T07:29:00.000-08:00

How many times can you forgive the person you love from hurting you?
How many times you will understand all the pain that you get from the person you love?
How many times you will keep on going even if you're heart is tired of loving?

I know this is very common in any kind of relationship. There is indeed no perfect relationship. You will get hurt again and again, with the same or different reasons.
But love is not love if it doesn't make you feel all sort of emotions.
Love will make you feel hurt once in a while... and it will also make you fall in love again and again...

If the time comes you feel you are no longer willing to feel the pain... then that is the time that you will have to let go everything that you feel...

Give yourself a break

2008-10-09T18:29:00.000-07:00

Have you been working all day and all night?
Have your heart been loving and trying too much lately?
Have your mind just keep on thinking for new ideas?
If yes... why dont you give yourself a break?

I know this might sound stupid. But I believe that it is important to give yourself a break once in a while. Life is too short and time runs too fast. Before you know it, you're 10 years older.
So the best thing is love your life, as much as you love your work, your partner and everything.

The importance of passion in relationship

2008-09-05T00:17:00.000-07:00

At the beginning of most relationships, you notice that you love to spend lots of time together and talk about everything. After awhile you think the conversation is boring and are starting wonder if you two even have anything in common. It is because you are getting to know each other well... and things seems to be a little too familiar and boring. We tend to ask ourselves, what went wrong.
The answer is simple... Passion is gone.
Passion is what makes any relationship work, successful and happy . It gives relationship the intimacy and friendship in all aspects. Passion is the reason you see couples happy and contented. However, in almost every relationship passion can fade away. Leaving relationships lacking and opening up new doors for many new problems. In every relationship that we are in, we are looking for comfort and happiness. We want to feel that we belong. Without feeling so, we feel empty... something is lacking and missing. Somehow make the couples abandon the ship and look for another.

Now the question is, Can we avoid it? Can we save our relationship from sinking. The answer is yes.
The one over all thing that is needed is communication. And amazingly the thing most couples lack. You both might be filling the same way, you both know what is missing, you both know what is going on... but decided not to talk about it and let it eat you up inside. Now, there is a chance that you feel the loss of spice and your partner does not. More than likely this is going to be the male, it is scientifically proven that males will not pick up on problems as quickly as females will. I think the woman needs for passion and the security it brings is much bigger than the needs of man. So proceed with caution when bringing the subject up. However, normally addressing the issue and doing it with it love and sense of passion itself is the best way to get it resolved quickly and efficiently. Letting your partner know how you feel and how you miss the things you usually do can certainly help bringing the things back as it used to be. Saying I love you more often and doing special things for your partner can bring the passion back in no time.

Hiding one self

2008-08-30T19:46:00.001-07:00

Many of us are not comfortable with ourselves, and they spend a lot of energy trying to keep other people from noticing. Countless people live most of their lives playing role, wearing masks … hoping it will cover up what they dislike about themselves. They cling to their beliefs that they will be liked for what they pretend to be rather than for whom they really are.

It is strange that the very thing we want most of all is acceptance from other people… for other people to like us. But uncertainty about ourselves makes it more difficult for us to open ourselves to others. Sometimes we feel we cannot make it on our own merit and so we resort to pretend to be somebody else. Our fear to be rejected, the fear that other people won’t like us if we open ourselves completely to them, makes it more complicated. Sometimes without even noticing, we are the architects of our own loneliness. Unconsciously, we judge ourselves worse than we think other will. We are afraid to be too close at the same time afraid to be too far for the fear that people around would notice what we want to hide about our true selves…making life more miserable. But for those who are not comfortable with their selves, it seems that it is the only way to survive. It is easier to believe that life is unfair than to accept that something is wrong with us and we have to do something about it. If we will examine ourselves carefully, we will realize that it only makes us miserable. It is a painful and empty place indeed that we chose to protect ourselves from being hurt in life.

what makes a happy ending

2008-08-11T02:04:00.000-07:00

All of us want a happy ending... may it be for love, for family, for career, friendship...etc. Who wants to suffer and to cry in the first place? When we enter any kind of relationship, we dream that it would be a lifetime relationship... we want it to stand out among our previous relationship. The question is, what is the key to a happy ending?

For me...making the best and the most out of your relationship would bring out the best formula to a happy ending relationship. It doesn't mean that you have to please him/her every time. You just have to show love every single moment that you have with your love one. This way, fights and misunderstanding would be easier to manage. Love should be express in every possible way. Love should be felt. It doesn't have to tie partners to each other, to the point that they can no longer move. Love should give enough space for partners to grow. Both should respect individuality. Both should maintain each other's trust. This way, happy ending is just a smile away.

A way to mend a broken heart

2008-08-08T19:13:00.000-07:00

It is normal for people to fall in love. Some at a very young age experience falling in love. And being in love is not always a bed of roses. There would be pain, heartaches and sometimes even betrayal. Things that sometimes lead to separation...things that breakmour heart ion two. How many of us didn't experience falling in love.? How many of us are already afraid to fall in love because of fear to get hurt again?

There are ways to mend a broken heart... but the best way is to learn to accept that there are things not meant to be no matter how much we love it. Whatever the cause of separation, you have to forgive your ex partner and to forgive yourself too. Accept that you have to move on with your life, and things will turn out fine in time. It's not easy though. It's not easy living your life on your own again... but that's life. We can't force everything to be in a way we want it to be. We have to give our best in whatever relationship we are in to... and if time comes that it slip through our hand... no matter how painful it is... at least we know that what we gave is the best of what we could give.
If it's not enough then it was not meant for us...

A word worth to keep...

2008-04-15T23:07:00.000-07:00

As usual, I am busy visiting other blogs when suddenly a quote from one blog caught my attention... it says "It is hard to tell if a man is telling the truth when you know you would lie if you were in his place" I remember that I heard that line a couple of times from a friend. And yes I believe that this is true.
In my life, I have faced a lot of pain and heartaches, after giving it a thought, I realize that I dont know what to believe anymore. Not because, I know I was treated like a fool or I cant trust the people around me... but because I know there are situations that it will be more complicated if you tell the truth.
How about you? What do you think about this line?

"It is hard to tell if a man is telling the truth when you know you would lie if you were in his place"

To say or not to say

2008-04-04T17:03:00.000-07:00

Call me Sunshine.
My story is simple, yet I want to ask opinions.
Here it goes...

I have two best friends. They had a relationship before. Eversice, I have a feelings with my best friend (the boy). Now that they are already break... I wonder if it is ok to let him know. I am afraid that he would not talk to me again. I think that this is my chance to let him know... before he enters in another relationship.
I also dont know how the girl (his ex and my best friend) would react if she will know about it. But I really love him.
Please give me your opinion

Am I bad

2008-02-12T07:22:00.000-08:00

Call me Celena.I dont know if I have to shre dis wid u.But i caannot tell dis to my friends. I hav sexual affair with my cousin.Since I was a kid. i think I was 7 though no penetration happened during that time until I reach 15.I dnt know what to do.I am abuse and let it happen for exchange of small favors like letting me play with gameboy,family computer etc.I was young during that time.Now I cannot stop him.Just want to share it.I am 18 right now and .I am afraid that no one will believe me.

My family or my bf?

2008-02-05T06:36:00.001-08:00

First, thnx for having this blog since I really need advice right now. I am 23 yrs old, and a very good daughter. I fell in love with someone whom my family believes to be lower than they expected. I really love him but I am afraid that my family will think that I disappoint them if
I continue our relationship.
My bf is a vocational graduate. And my mom cannot accept that. He thinks I desrve someone better than him. though I love him very much, I dont think I can fight for him. Please advice me of what to do...
I'll appreciate your thoughts...

- Lina-